7 out of 10 rules you should NEVER overlook
I don't think that there are no rules, on the contrary. Given the fact that men and women are so different, there are a lot of situations when misunderstandings can get in the way and ruin things. I don't think about rules as setbacks or destroyers of the pleasure of instinctual intimacy, but as tools of the trade that, if followed correctly, can lead to a greater understanding in bed.
When it comes to anal sex, rules are even more important. If you break them, you can end up dissatisfied and with no chance of ever convincing your girlfriend or wife to agree to try it again. Here are the most important ones, summed up and described so that you fully understand their importance.
Never do it while she's pregnant. Dr. Ruth Westheimer, sex therapist, media personality and author, points out that some men think that having vaginal intercourse during pregnancy will somehow hurt the baby, so they suggest anal intercourse instead, which is not true. Anal sex can be very dangerous during pregnancy, especially because of the risk of spreading bacteria from the anus and rectum to the vagina. Vaginal infections during pregnancy can be both harder to treat and more serious.
Don't do her by surprise. Word of advice: girls are not amused when boys slip their penises in the wrong hole "by mistake". It doesn't matter how turned on she is, she will feel the difference, and she won't be very happy about it. The only way you're getting in there is if she's ready for it.
Never skip foreplay. Even if she's the type that likes it rough, it's different when it comes to anal intercourse. She might like when you surprise her with sudden trysts, without any clitoral stimulation beforehand, but she might not like it when you do the same, but in her derriere. Start slow and move step by step. The anal tightness takes time to ‘break' into a state of relaxation, and until that happens, any attempt at thrusting is meant to cause pain of the worst kind.
Don't push it too soon. One of Murphy's famous laws on sex goes something like this:
"Anal sex is like snow. You never know how many inches you are going to get or how long it is going to
last." Always keep in mind that there is no sure thing when it comes to anal sex. She might not want to go through with it tonight, and that means you should always be prepared to back off whenever she asks you to. If you're too insistent too soon, you might scare her for good.
Don't go too hard. Camille Paglia, feminist author, teacher and social critic said at one point:
"You have to accept the fact that part of the sizzle of anal sex comes from the danger of it. You can be
overpowered." Though you can get over excited while you're doing it, keep a lucid mind and think about the consequences that your roughness can produce. Keep your enthusiasm in your heart, not in your moves, otherwise you can end up hurting her.
Don't forget about breathing. Deep inhaling and exhaling is very important during anal sex. Ask your partner to take relaxing breaths so that the anus doesn't tighten up too soon. After you have inserted your finger or penis inside the anus, get her to exhale deeply so that the muscles relax. Yoga lessons can help her control her breathing, so it wouldn't hurt if she took some.